Curvy Counselling
with Frances Varney
Creating a meaningful life without children
I help people from the childless and childfree community to deal with their difficult feelings,
so that they feel better about themselves and more positive about the future.
I give counselling online and over the phone, so am available wherever you are.
Maybe you’ve learnt that you can’t have children, and now the family life you envisioned for yourself is disappearing into thin air.
Perhaps you’re worried about how you will cope with not being a parent. How it may disappoint other people, or whether your relationship will survive.
I specialise in counselling people who are struggling with any aspect of not having children.
Even if you’ve actively chosen not to have children, you can suffer from the loss of them. And this can happen at any time of life, not just during the crunch years when people expect you to have kids.
For example, when menopause marks the official end of fertility, when friends proudly show you pictures of their grandchildren, or when you’re lying awake at night wondering who will look out for you as you get old or ill.
Sometimes it can feel like everyone apart from you is bouncing
a blooming baby on their lap, while you feel empty and isolated.
It can feel like you’ll never get over the grief of not being a parent,
when you felt like it was your destiny.
Suddenly the life you planned is gone, and there’s just blackness ahead.
You may wonder if you’ll survive it, and what the point of surviving it would be.
It is possible to feel better
Counselling can help you grieve the life you’re not going to have; grieve not being a parent and not having your own babies and grandchildren.
Counselling can help you to:
- Recover from your pain,
- Get back your sense of self, and
- Create a new future without children
I give counselling over the phone and online, so I can counsel you wherever you live in the country. You can talk to me from your own home, or anywhere you’ll feel safe and free to talk.
Get in touch
Email: frances@curvycounselling.com
Please email or give me a call if you’d like to know more or to book a session. If I can't answer the phone, please leave your name if it's ok to call you back.
You can also message me using this contact form.
I usually reply within 24 hours, although this may be longer at weekends.